Love, Sex and Marriage: Insights from Judaism,
Christianity, and Islam
Dan Cohn-Sherbok, George D. Chryssides, and
Dawoud El-Alami
SCM Press £16.99
(978-0-334-04405-5)
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IN Part 1 of this book, each of the writers, representing one of
the three faiths, contributes a short essay on the themes of
sex-law, marriage, family life, and divorce: 12 essays in all. Part
2 is a "trialogue" in which the three authors discuss their earlier
essays, this time under the headings sex before marriage, marriage,
sex within marriage, homosexuality, polygamy, intermarriage,
abortion, assisted reproduction and adoption, family life, and
divorce.
The appalling restrictions on women in Islam are unflinchingly
described in several of El-Alami's essays, along with "marriages of
pleasure" and "the traveller's marriage". A husband has the "right
of discipline", and, since the Qur'an is "infallible", the verse
allowing wife-beating "has to be accepted as it stands": "There are
no legal restrictions to a man's power to divorce his wife at any
time and for any or no reason."
Whereas female circumcision is breezily dismissed as "not
prescribed in Islam, but pre-dates it", 140 million girls and women
are currently suffering the consequences of it; and its
legitimisation by Islamic authorities and customs cannot be
denied.
The title of the book is misleading. There is nothing about love
(except for a couple of references to C. S. Lewis). "Insight"
implies a deep understanding of something, or the ability to see
something in a different way. It is difficult to see how the
introductory descriptive style of writing can achieve this.
An introduction to the historical background of the three faiths
is given in a mere 11 pages, suggesting that the intended
readership is fairly elementary. All three (male) authors appear
indifferent to the andro-centrism of the traditions they
describe.
There are unfortunate errors. God is said to have created Adam
out of the dust of the ground in Genesis 1, not Genesis 2. There is
no biblical idea of Adam and Eve's being created as "one flesh".
Men and women become "one flesh" in marriage. The Roman Catholic
Church is wrongly said to teach "that the primary purpose of sex is
procreation". Humanae Vitae (here wrongly dated as 1969)
insists on "the inseparable connection . . . between the unitive
significance and the procreative significance" of marriage, both of
which are "inherent to the marriage act . . . which man on his own
initiative may not break". "The interoperation of scripture" gets
past the copy-editor, together with many typos.
It is a relief to discover in Part 2 that some of the Islamic
views are judged by the other co-authors as "profoundly disturbing"
and "monstrous". The defiant response is that there is no scope for
change because "certain elements . . . are contained in the Qur'an,
which for Muslims is immutable and infallible." This is a total
hermeneutical failure, acknowledging neither the possibility of
alternative readings, nor the immoral consequences and pain caused
directly by its interpretative assumptions.
Asma Barlas, for instance, herself a Muslim, reads the Qur'an as
an anti-patriarchal text in the light of the theology that she
finds there, and finds in the replication of seventh-century Arab
patriarchy a species of idolatry.
Dr Adrian Thatcher is Visiting Professor in the Department
of Theology and Religion at the University of Exeter.